When I started this blog, I supposed I envisioned others out there who have gone through what our family is right now. I suppose I was hoping for comments with advise or telling me what we’re doing right, what to look out for and what not to do.
For instance, last night my daughter’s main counselor sends me a message to have my son call her. She wanted to wish him happy birthday, it seemed. My mind spun back about 4 years to when she was getting married to the husband who is divorcing her now. They first got married in the court and when she had called me to tell me the date, I commented that it was her brother’s birthday. She was oblivious then.
So many things go through my mind when it’s time to talk to her. What to tell, what not, will this make her happy or not, is today a good day or bad. Yesterday, after the wishing she asked to talked to me. She can’t be in there so long she tells me and be out of touch with her husband and son. She’ll have weekly random blood tests. She knows now she can’t be on drugs. She doesn’t need a cellphone or Facebook or anything. After each statement, I wonder should I discuss with her father or not. Is she being honest or is it a ploy to get out so she can go back to her friends, drug or anything else. Is it wise to trust her when she’s not even in there a month yet? She then tells me it’s different this time. Last time she thought she could still do drugs. She hit rock bottom now. Again, truth or lie. She said many of the same or similar last time.
I keep hoping that maybe this will be the last time we have to send her. It’s the second time, but we have seen that many return over and over and that makes us very worried. Her doctor has said she needs to stay for 7 months. It’s hard to determine whether it’s for our payments or her situation.
How to separate the truth from the lie?